Monday, April 14, 2014

The Good and the....We Need to Work on It

The good news is we found a nanny to come 5 hours a week and give me a bit of help. The bad news is that Orion's anxiety around strangers resurfaced and he nipped her. So....I have a fabulous nanny, but I can't leave the house while she is here. 

Sigh. I'll be calling a trainer to help us sort this out. Oh the irony of having to put the DOG in daycare so I can leave the baby with a nanny.

Oy. 

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Getting Help

Having a baby is hard. Having a baby who doesn't nap is hard. Having a baby when your family lives across the country and your closest friend is an hour away is hard. 

I'm struggling through the days and it has gotten to the point where I don't feel like I am enjoying my baby like I should. I'm frustrated that there is no time or naptime in the day where I can get things done. Weekends don't have enough hours in them for us to spend time as a family. Instead we are running errands, cooking, cleaning and just playing catchup. I haven't been to therapy for my anxiety in weeks because we have nobody to watch the baby. I can feel myself slowly losing the post-partum depression battle.

NJhusband and I decided it was time to get some help. We have a trial with a nanny on Friday to see if she may be a good fit for us. We are going to start with just a few hours twice a week, enough for me to have one day to see my doctor and one day for errands, cleaning and whatever else I need to catch up on so that weekends can be spent together.

I have to admit I feel like a bit of a failure for needing help. I question why I can't do it all on my own, but I have to accept that right now I need a hand.

Fingers crossed she isn't scared off by the 100 pounds of black lab mix that will surely "greet" her at the door. 

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Dressing a Boy

When I got pregnant, I hoped the baby would be a boy. I don't wear make-up or even have a hairstyle most of the time (unless ponytail is considered a style) and feared I would be unable to properly raise a girl. I dreaded the thought of bows and pink and dressing a girl daily.

So it was a huge surprise to me that I LOVE dressing my boy! Polo shirts, plaid shorts, puffy vests and baseball caps, I love it all. Facebook resale groups and good deals at the Gap may be the end of me. I've gone a TAD crazy buying clothes for my little guy lately:


I know he won't always let me dress him and will eventually develop his own personal style, but for now, I am enjoying our time in the morning when I get to pick out his clothes and get him ready for the day. 

Because seriously, how can you resist cargo shorts, argyle socks and a polo?:



Wednesday, March 19, 2014

When Courage Calls: Book Review

I was initially dubious about reading a book with two authors. I was worried the two voices would compete and be distracting. I was completely wrong. 

I didn't know about the Hallmark movie attached to this story so I went in reading Beth's story with a fresh perspective. When Courage Calls takes having a higher calling to a whole other level. Beth chooses to leave her posh upbringing behind and teach underprivileged children in Western Canada. She finds herself drawn in, not just to the children, but to the entire community. I don't think a single inhabitant of Coal Valley remains untouched by Beth's contributions to the town. 

Bethany House Publishers provided me with a copy of this book to review, but I was not financially compensated in any way. The opinions expressed are my own and are based on my observations and thoughts while reading this novel. 

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Sleep Training: Who Trains Who?


For the first 4 months of baby E's life, our sleep philosophy was to try to listen to his needs. When it seemed like he needed some extra cuddle time in the early weeks, we co-slept. On the nights he went down easily, he slept in his Rock N Play (which my mom dubbed the "manger") next to our bed. We alternated between co-sleeping and the manger for a few months and then moved the manger into his room and that became his primary sleep space. He naturally gave up his middle of the night feedings and started sleeping longer on his own and even though his preferred sleep hours and not ideal (7pm-4:30am), we considered ourselves lucky that he was progressing on his own.

As he is quickly outgrowing the manger, we know we need to transition him to his crib soon. We tried occasionally putting him down for naps there, but he would never stay asleep for more than 20 minutes at a time and then he would wake screaming and cranky. His crib aversion is strange, since he will sleep HOURS at a time in our bed, even by himself.

For reasons unknown to me, I decided to try to move him to night sleeping in the crib cold turkey. Naps were NOT working there or even being tried consistently so why I thought this was a good idea is BEYOND me. We tried for 2 nights and both nights he woke up every 20 minutes.

Now maybe a younger mother would have been able to hang in there, but I am almost 35 and I don't have the endurance I had in my 20s to go without sleep for days. By the second night he was so exhausted during the day he would fall asleep mid-bottle and was missing ounces and NJhusband and I decided to abandon our sleep mission for now.

We went a full week of doing 1 nap in the crib and have now worked up to 2. It's going....better but it's still a struggle to get him comfortable in the crib. He consistently wakes up every 20 minutes like clockwork. For naps since I religiously watch the monitor I've been letting him take a lovey (one of those creepy stuffed animal heads attached to a tiny blanket) with him and it seems to make ALL the difference. I don't think I would let him sleep with a lovey all night at this age, but I'll cross the all night bridge when I get to it. For now, we are inching towards crib success.



Monday, March 10, 2014

Holidays...Now All Year Long

In my pre-kid life, my holiday season ended with New Years. I started with Thanksgiving, moved on to gatherings with extended family for Christmas and then rounded out the holiday season with champagne at midnight.

Now that we have E, I feel the urge to extend the season and acknowledge the "color" holidays. I feel like I should be making pink and red cookies for Valentine's Day, wear green for St. Patrick's Day and break out the pastels for Easter. Not to mention the red, white and blue of July 4th.  I don't know if I'll go all Pinterest crazy and start decorating or making special meals for each, but I think we will somehow make each of the days special.

The bug has already hit me. I couldn't resist a recent Land's End sale where I snatched up this personalized canvas bucket to use as E's Easter basket:


Though I may need Pinterest to tell me what to put in it. 

Thursday, March 6, 2014

Changes!

As you may have noticed, Newlywed Tales is going through some changes. Since I am no longer technically a newlywed, I thought a new name was in order.

Welcome to Adobo and Fries! A place where a Midwestern girl and a Filipino boy share our family tales. Meet the stars of the blog:



At the top left we have NJhusband (representing the Adobo).  Top right is me (Fries)! Bottom left is Eli, our little adobo fry and rounding out the family is Orion, our black lab mix, who likes both adobo and fries. 

Welcome to our family!